Where all of my writings stem.

I write to reach people, who may wish to be reached.
The two places where my writings stem from:
Life, and Psychology.

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No matter your beliefs – religion, personal…
We are all under the same sky. In the same mysterious cosmic dance together.

Having beliefs, does not make, nor dissolve the truth of where we come from. They say “A rose by any other name”, is still a rose. Whatever you think of God, Nature, the Universe, Energy.. it/they are the same for us all. We originate from the same place. We live on the same planet. We breath the same air, under the same sun.

A divide may feel true, but it is not.

Secondly. Should any of these energies of which we came, have the ability to think deeply? Then they know the centuries of confusion spiraling around us as each new generation comes along. Therefore, there is understanding. Humans are not perfect. Our souls are not up front, not with so much confusion in the way.

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From birth, our minds are clean.

Take parents, neighbourhoods, TV, school.. there are wonderful things in each, however abuse and such happen that affect our growth and happiness. Our personalities, and our methods of being educated differ.. so the extent of misguidedness can be great. It can also cause a spark, that leads down a road only within that individual’s mind.

It’s hard to help when we don’t realize just where someone is “going”.

The wrong turns our mind takes, do not undo the good we once knew. It’s my belief, that we can get back to beneficial understanding and behaviours. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it can be done. The way back, is there.. “under fallen trees of bad experiences”, catch my drift? Question is.. do you/they want it. It’s for you. For a happiness you forgot, or no longer think is attainable.

My last, and longtime thought on psychology and our future:
At a young age/while we grow… To learn what is good, and how powerful our mind is. The rights of people in general, as people. Learning problem solving and how to think ahead.

colorfulsquare I outlined a course I wouldn’t mind seeing available one day.


Life isn’t totally what is put in front of us. It is also the paths and opportunities we create, sometimes seemingly out of nothing.
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A way out of Insecurity? (Our Needs)

What fuels your insecurity?
Not enough social media “likes”? How others treat you?
It’s only human to want to be wanted. It’s one of Maslow’s Needs:

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When it comes to unintentionally disappointing people I really care about, my insecurity can drop. I suppose many are guilty of that!

So! Let’s take a look at the upper three tiers of our needs and how they mingle.

Love/Belonging, Self-Esteem, and Self-Actualization.

What makes you feel complete? Do you know your passions? Your talents? Do you feel you belong, or have someone trustworthy who wants you for you? Someone you can be vulnerable with emotionally and sexually? How about the reality of your faults – as we all have them. Should we beat ourselves up?

The answer to that last one is, no. Even if you have an addiction that you keep falling back into; if you are trying your best and being honest with yourself and others, you should not beat yourself up. That will not help you.

Other’s are not responsible for the healing change in our emotional state, or some of us would never heal. When we get down on ourselves, we pause our progress, and give off a quiet, unhappy energy.

Making sense of your worth and purposes is where to begin. Forget ALL of the swirling worries. Yes. All! Give yourself permission to let them go (feels good!)

colorfulsquare  Beneficial thoughts to occupy your mind.

You are human:
Not a soul on this planet is perfect! Intended or not, big or small, imperfections are a part of us. Therefore I will repeat, not to beat yourself up.

You are in control:
From letting go of the people and/or thoughts that keep you upset, to deciding how to treat yourself at any given moment, to where you’d like to be 10 yrs from now!

The choices you make now, affect each day that follows. Bad days will happen, but learn not to dwell on them. Nor to hold a grudge (on anything or anyone) as – again – no one is perfect 😉

Should your problems stem from eg. a disorder or abuse, it isn’t easy to find your way out of that foggy existence. The possibility depends on your willingness to love yourself, and keep the attempted progress going. Never see blips or phases of re-surfacing issues as a failure. It does not undo your progress!

When we mush together every factor of negative influence, no wonder it’s hard to see clear. It’s very important to take time for yourself. To step back and view the big picture. To love and respect yourself. This is how you change your life and attract new experiences!

Another helpful tip: If you were witnessing someone you love going through the same problems as you; what advice would you give? We are our own worst critics, especially when we are inside the storm. It feels sometimes like life is too broken to be fixed.

Life is not one long piece of art that turns to rubbish with one defacement. It goes moments at a time. Life is a collection of art! We can change our creativity, our pieces that we show the world. Nothing is carved in stone. We have much more freedom than we realize.

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One Life. Many Paths. Final Choice.

Excuse the sloppy HTML. WordPress is not co-operating no matter what. 

This post is inspired by the murders and violence seen daily. I wonder what makes a person ok with killing. How it comes to that, or if they could’ve found a different path mentally.

I know it’s possible for people to change mentally (unless biologically ill, eg. schizophrenia) I know this because of the work I’ve done with my social anxiety disorder. The changes my life has seen (good and bad) The power I didn’t know I had. I’m not finished – we never are.

I believe we can educate future generations to handle life much more mindfully. The amount of hate and killing going on is crazy and it doesn’t have to be this way.

It really doesn’t!

The day more people believe this, is the day change begins.
I can’t do it alone. We can do it together.


Our first breath introduces us to the purest we’ll ever be. Parents, community, media, environment; factors mold us. They shape our feelings, therefore our decisions and outcomes.
One life, “mine”, is sometimes the only life we truly see. We make our own rules to get what we want. The problem lies in when “wants” collide.
The truth is, we are not one life. We do live as “we”. There is no escaping that.

It’s easy to see where we’ve been. Paths before us can range from nightmarish to a dream. Both can strengthen or weaken. It depends on our foundation. Our values and education.
Making our own rules while on a rocky foundation, is never planned. It can lie to you, as if it’s happiness – or the happiest you’re capable of. That is the second problem that solidifies clashing lives. It can also create anger or pain. With no desire to care about others.
The lie about happiness – can and needs to be – risen above. That is where the answer
exists in today’s nightmares. Some are so broken that better days are not believable.

Final choices are malleable.
Having a healthy-based destination in mind – be-it emotional or achievement-wise, helps keep your strength and the good aligned. Your present choices, are attached to where you genuinely want to be.
We are not perfect – not a one of us. We are not alone (feeling so IS a lie. You have not met every person on the planet. People who can support you and care) Our lives are not carved in stone. We do not control others, but we can help as best we can (others and ourselves)

What final choices do you want to meet?
How far above the lies of limits and loneliness, can you rise?
Can you see the power you have to change?

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Quality of Self and Community

I’ve roughly created a course outline with a psychology base to casually yet thoroughly help kids and teens grow into healthy-minded adults who care about:

Quality of Self and Community

Perhaps taught weekly, from 2nd grade through high-school – it’s a class that offers time for students to discuss what’s on their minds (this includes asking anonymously through notes or e-mail) if they like. In addition, and most importantly, the course would offer many answers ready to teach without them asking. At the very least, this plants mental seeds to grow when needed later.

I know you must see the craziness exposed daily on the news. It makes me shake my head. We go from teaching kids to say “please” and “thank you”, then at some point.. they give themselves permission to make up their own rules in life. They feel angry, entitled.. for various reasons. It follows them into adulthood. But if we meet them where it counts, when it counts… we can make a huge difference in the adults and communities of tomorrow. It may just be within Ontario, or Canada for now, but it could catch on.

They’d learn about:

Proper problem solving: (How to think things through. Weigh potential outcomes)
Eg. not begin substance reliance to feel better.

Living with differences: (Race, Religion, Opinions…) This one might be tricky for parents to get on board with. Students would learn the basic facts about individual’s rights, and when it’s more appropriate/worth it to “pick their battles”. There is likely a way to teach this without using the words “race” or “religion”. This way all can have a chance to benefit no matter their parents belief system.

Self-respect/Bullying: (Reputation, legacy…) This ties into rights, as well. It also allows the kids/teens to consider their responsibilities. Power of reputation. And again, potential outcomes.

Growing pains (discovering self, dealing with depression, anxiety, low self-esteem…) It’s difficult growing up! Give them tools to (a) find external resources (doctors, emergency numbers – for suicide, abuse, LGBTQ, mental illness etc., online forums to feel less alone…), (b) ways to help themselves (learn positive self-talk, make plans to feel excited about etc.)

This wasn’t in my original idea, but offering pamphlets for healthy eating might be nice. With food bank info etc. attached.

If there isn’t a course for this: Environment (the health of our planet) Go over what hurts and what helps. Maybe offering an environmental club where they can travel and plant trees, something simple to get them out making a positive difference together.

Why I believe in this course:
Because we’re simply capable of more! It’s possible with effort and thought.
Together, tomorrow will be brighter!
It starts when we want it to. Are you in?

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