Let’s draw a few mental pictures. I’m going to write the appearance, as well as the view behind the subjects eyes. How does the view compare to reality? And what comes (or could come) of it?
Quiet, stares off often, exhibits snap anger when bothered. This teen, also happens to be an American, Muslim.
● How did you feel up to reading “Muslim”?
● What would you feel seeing his outward emotions?
Truth is, he just lost his Grandfather who’d been raising him; the only person he trusted. His pain is internal, he’s harmless. Sad, and angry, but harmless. He gets bullied by people who jump to conclusions, assuming he’s evil – therefore – his outward appearance is tied to “evil” when blanketed by the assumption. Not seen in his reality: Hurt, scared, sad, angry, bullied. That’s what his heart and mind are filled with.
How do you think he’d react, if people treated him like any other person? With interest, and compassion? Long and short term, what positive things could come of living in reality?
A lady in her 80s; She walks very slow, and has a miserable look on her face all the time.
She has years of aches, extreme physical pain, and lost friends under her belt. No one checks up on her. She feels ill and forgotten.
● Do you ignore her? Become annoyed?
5 seconds to say Hello and smile. Maybe another 2 minutes to talk about the weather… that could make her day! I know from experience, sometimes older people are so upset that a Hello doesn’t work at first.. if you keep saying it every time you walk by, they eventually believe you mean it.
Sometimes older people have quite the life to share! Or are just plain sweet and thankful that someone is acknowledging them. If we all live to an old age, we could be them, feeling ill and forgotten.
Patience, and sharing a smile. It’s so simple, yet might be the bright spot in someone’s day! (Not just older people)
The following are presented a little differently. About the “Perception and Reality” of Insecurity.
Online everywhere, I see multiple ways Insecurity affects people:
● It takes up their time. Even when no one has said anything to them, the defensiveness and desire to build their mask/character is apparent. They want to feel better. This attempt repeats so much that it, itself, unintentionally becomes their “online character”.
It can bring people down to continuously see, especially to those who’ve tried to help. To some – since the power to heal is only within the insecure person – they opt not to engage or read what that person has to say any longer.
They don’t hate, but can get mentally tired of seeing something sad that they can’t help with.
● It can alter their reality. When their perception of others is seasoned by insecurity: What they feel they see, is real to them, but not necessarily reality
A busy friend can feel like rejection.
An acquaintance with a personality you don’t jive with, can feel like competition.
Old memories cast shadows on totally new relationships.
If you’re the type of person to act on your feelings, you may end up turning your worries into reality. When they weren’t the truth to begin with. Then of course, the reaction from others feeds your insecurity and beliefs more.
● Do you feel entitled, or better than others?
If the tables were turned, you’d think it was wrong of someone to treat you badly without knowing you. Deep down, you know that is true of those you meet. Each individual is different. Each individual has gone through problems. Don’t assume. And if you wont communicate as effort to understand or help, just move on.
● Have 100% of a “category” of people you’ve met, been horrible to you?
Have you met 100% of the planet? The paragraph just above also fits here.
Imagining. Guessing. Assuming. Predicting. All have high potential to create what isn’t there. Not to say, at times we aren’t correct, however more often than not – these choices bring along unnecessary stress or harm.
Interactions could go well. Energy could be spent on great things and on real problems. There could be more happiness in our lives.